This is another review of a book that we read for our adoption agency.  I liked this one much better than the first one I wrote about.  This book is called 
The Connected Child: bring hope and healing to your adopted family.  Here are some of the things that stuck with me.
This book discussed some of the challenges that a child may face after being institutionalized.  Deprivation      and harm suffered early in life impact all the ways a child develops –      coordination, ability to learn, social skills, size, and      neurochemistry.  This is why      formerly neglected/abused children are predisposed to attachment      difficulties, conduct disorder, depression, anxiety, attention deficits,      etc. 
Common      obstacles to attachment:  child carriers,      time-outs, lack of eye contact, TV & electronic games
An infant who is rarely touched or spoken too in the first year of life can suffer mental & behavioral impairments.  Children raised in an impoverished institution may exhibit the following behaviors/characteristics:  food hoarding, crossed eyes (from staring at the ceiling), fear of new places/people, indiscriminate friendliness, self-comforting repetitive behaviors 
You      can learn a lot about your child by careful observation.  Small details of body language and      behavior will convey a message that they child is unable to communicate      with words.  You may learn what is      behind outbursts simply by observing.
As a      result of early neglect, adopted kids have suboptimal brain      chemistry.  This can be improved by      such things a eating healthy meals at regular interval to keep glucose      levels within normal range.  Note that medication      solves only about 30% of behavioral problems.  
This a nice thing for me to read.  There were times, when I was still working in retail pharmacy that I really wanted to have a talk with a parent about the importance of discipline.  There were so many kids on ADHD meds, some of who needed & truly benefited from the medications. . .but there were those other kids whose parents simply wanted a magic pill to control their child.Cortisol      is a hormone that is activated by an responds to stress.  When children have too much cortisol in      their system it can lead to undesirable behaviors.  By helping your child feel safe, you can      actually optimize cortisol levels and allow your child’s brain to work      better.  Some      things that can reduce chronic fear:       alert child to upcoming activities and make their day predictable,      prevent sensory overload
Offering      a child choices helps them feel empowered.       Offer them two choices, not 5. . .you are not their to be their      genie in a bottle.
See      misbehavior as an opportunity to teach a child new skills.  Don’t take misbehavior personally.  Offer a “do-over” when a child      misbehaves so they will learn what is appropriate.  Maintain a respectful atmosphere. Encourage      child to “use their words” when you see a tantrum coming.  To avoid tantrums and meltdowns in public:  establish choices before you get to your destination & rehearse your child for what’s coming 
Keep      your child close by when they are being disciplined.  Sending a child who has attachment issue      to their room or to time-out only reinforces the feeling of isolation. Let      the down child easy with the sandwich technique:  surround a corrective statement with two      positive statements.  
Present      a united front at home and at school.       If your child says “daddy said I could ____”, always verify that 1
st.  If child says their teacher said      something mean, let them you know you take their concern seriously &      schedule a meeting with the teacher.       Don’t automatically jump to child’s side – they might be      manipulating you.